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Let’s Get Physical with Your Whole Person!

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Again, to pick up again on the dynamic interconnection and complementary behaviors of multi-dimensional whole persons, let’s get physical with your whole person!  Seems a bit off the wall, but I’ve written about, and taught college and university courses on THIS INTRIGUING CONFIGURATION of we humans, for well over 35 years.

Each time I resurrect the model I am reminded it is as universal as the air we breathe and the water we drink, because at its core it remains grounded in the same basic approach to recognizing the importance each of the six dimensions our multi-dimensional whole persons plays in creating a dynamic and exciting life!

As we go through this six-step series, free your imagination when it comes to blending of your:  1) physical bodies; 2) minds; 3) social inclinations; 4) spirituality; 5) environmental awareness and inclinations; and 6) intrapersonal deeply personal and oft-private selves!

So, let’s get physical knowing it’s become fashionable and trendy for all sizes and shapes of women and men to drape much of their “lives-lived,” “lives-hoped-for,” and “lives-in-chaos” on their physical bodies by how they’ve retrofitted their bodies with clothing styles, refreshed their bodies with tint-tone-tummies & tuck, and, okay yes these are a matter of personal taste, accessorized their bodies with tiny to elaborate tattoos and other partial or total sub-cutaneous “fashion” statements.

As much as I’ve wondered aloud about the whys and why not’s of tattoos, I noticed a detailed one on my dental technician’s arm today.  She had gotten it as a tribute to her younger nephew who had served as a U.S. Marine, and been killed in Iraq.  She wore it with pride; it changed my mind about tattoos; they are still not for me, but they may have a special meanings to others that easily eclipse my objections!  And I say, Amen!

This series of six posts is not intended to scrutinize or evaluate every facet of each dimension (I’ve not even tried that in several books I’ve written where I discussed the six dimensions), but I’m sure you, as reader, will leave with a keen sense of where you’re headed to becoming better at blending the six dimensions of YOUR MULTI-DIMENSIONAL WHOLE PERSON!

 Don’t be insulted, and don’t view this as over simplification, but the most visible testimony to your state of the physical health and well-being is reflected in the following clarifying points:

  1. You are what you eat & drink – get down with this point; it’s very clear that the foods you consume and beverages you drink affect the performance of your body; as is it true that the foods you should consume but do not (or beverages you shouldn’t drink too much of, but do) also affect the performance of your body.
  2. Don’t be misled by quantity and type of food & drink – concentrate on nutrient intake, including calories from carbohydrates, calories from fats, and calories from protein; and do not sidestep the importance of the balance of vitamins and minerals in the foods you eat. The key to this nutrient know-how is committing to self-study for a month, and then choosing your favorite “nutrient guide” book and giving it a prominent home in your kitchen. After you’ve learned to use this guide to identify the relative nutrient values in foods and drinks, you’ll actually find that you’re really “pretty smart” when your body’s hungry & getting physical!
  3. Bodies are made to house our internal organs, indeed – but bodies are also made to move and to perform coordinated muscular-nerve related actions that we should be able to do powerfully in both more subdued, controlled, even confined environments (e.g., lifting weights, or doing yoga and stretching in hotel gyms while traveling), and boldly and explosively in public (e.g., participation in adult sports leagues, triathlons, cycling or running competitions, etc.).

That snapshot of getting physical was hardly fair, was it?  I hope you get my point: there is a great deal more to the dimension of your  physical bodyTake a moment to do a short inventory of what’s happened to your physical body since you got out of bed this morning…

We’re very fortunate to have these bodies, and all that impact them.  Take a moment to think about what you’ve done to damage it; then honestly ask yourself if you have the desire to reclaim the potential you still have of getting physical and paying attention to what your body is telling you about how you put it through the paces of your life.

Listen to what your body is telling you through how it feels, how easily it is injured, or how quickly it heals.  When the fatigue sets in, listen to its call for rest.  If that’s not possible, you might want to take a break from the world you created for it!

BUSINESS SMARTS & GOD SENSE! …from the sidelines by Dr. John Yacenda

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Where is the Holy Spirit in Your Life?

When preaching about the Holy Spirit and most matters of Christian faith as these apply to life today, I would customarily begin by citing a passage of scripture, and then expounding on its interpretation and application to life in today’s world (Seminary 101).  Don’t peek, but the scripture upon which this blog is built is nestled at the end of this brief exploration of God the Holy Spirit’s work within you!

At first thought I wondered aloud if the Apostle Paul would go along with my description of him as the Holy Spirit’s “Oh, yeah, I get it” guy for Christians the world over who would each read his careful transcription of the Holy Spirit’s message, and upon recognizing the central role God the Holy Spirit would play in each one’s life, say simply, “Oh, yeah, I get it!”

So, do you get it?  Paul had spent three years with the Christians of the Church at Ephesus, and as far as he was concerned they were doing fine, but don’t most things need a tune-up, polish, spruce-up, re-alignment, recalibration, ad nauseam?  Most of us welcome periodic contact from those we love; just imagine the people of the Church of Ephesus whose love was returned by Paul with expressions from the Spirit of God on how to nurture and maintain unity of the church – a church that was living and growing; one family in Christ!

When I type this I cringe, go off the record, and ache a bit for how messed-up we’ve become as a – SAY WHAT – civilized society!

And now, well over 2,000 years later, we are exhorted by Paul’s words to follow our spirit within (who communicates freely with the Holy Spirit), and to recognize our old self is subject to corruption, or already is corrupted, while our new self is being created and regenerated.

Think on this for a few moments: In my studies of “self-corruption and regenerationI’ve had many Oh, yeah, I get it!” moments thanks to Paul’s transcriptions of the Word of God, and my lively relationship with the Holy Spirit.  HERE’S WHAT I POSIT: The Holy Spirit actually provides timeless opportunities for regeneration pegged to our conscious lifetimes. 

When it comes to the creation of a new” self, the Holy Spirit “referees” the process from the moment we accept and recognize our old self is corrupted, as influenced by deceitful desires, through His influence for us to embrace the true righteousness and holiness of God!

Ah, but don’t miss this: your regenerated “new” self REMAINS A TIMELESS OPPORTUNITY – that is, it’s yours to choose to embrace or to again lose.  Such is my Posit, and I welcome any and all discussion, interpretation, theological debate, and possible application YOU might want to offer.

The Holy Spirit is willing if you are willing to inspire you anew with the revelation of God as holy and perfect …to give all of us inspiration to lift ourselves to new heights.  What’s really exciting about this process of regeneration is the emergence of a new attitude in our thinking where we don’t develop God in our image, BUT ARE OPEN TO GOD REVEALING HIS IMAGE TO US!

Paul in shorthand: put away lying; speak truth with all; anger becomes sin when held onto; never invite the devil to come around as he’s always looking for a way to create evil & destructiveness.   As Paul wrote in Ephesians 4:23-27(KJV) 23) And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; 24) And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness. 25) Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbor: for we are members one of another. 26) Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: 27) Neither give place to the devil.

Mature Mind & Creatures of Evil

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Am I Crazy…or Just Wild & Untamed?

Think about this for a moment: “mature mind” is a concept I used for probably 30 years without too much challenge.  Then, along came life with its litany of horrors and craziness, and we found all kinds of hipster, New Age ways to endure and somehow get to the point where we “accepted it all” and called ours, a civilized world.   Please (yes, I am dating myself), don’t be envious of me for having the time and profession to have talked with and counseled a good many of the perpetrators of this same claim to civilized living, because during these forays into this civilized madness, I met the “source” of the horrors and craziness – “creatures of evil” residing quietly, without gender in vulnerable men and women of all ages!  

I won’t name names, but you can fill in the blanks as you see fit.  How do we account for such behavior, and what if it expresses itself in the workplace?  Think of these “creatures of evil” residing between your ears, and having the authority to ignite a passionate desire in you to behave like a wild untamed animal! 

One of my mentors during my early years of training in psychology in general, and psychotherapy in practice was Ronald Laing, M.D., a British Psychiatrist who was to me, an inspiration, while to many of his older medical brethren, he was a mad man.  He would have characterized my “creatures of evil” a bit differently, but I think you’ll get my point from his work in 1967 (The Politics of Experience – Ballatine Books, p.55) 

“Torn — body, mind, and spirit — by inner contradictions, pulled in different directions.  Man cut off from his own mind, cut off equally from his own body — a half-crazed creature in a mad world.”

Go ahead, boo me…because down deep inside of my psyche, Dr. Laing has a “guest house” and his door is always unlocked!  So what I’m going to tell you next, comes with the support of my guest; here it is: Understand, that as civilized modern man/woman, you live in a world in which the “normal stimuli” is enough to drive you to appear in mood to be a raving maniacal wild Chimpanzee, while at another not too distant moment on the very same continuum to be seen as the epitome of  the model of civilized “mature” mental health!

Our creatures of evil don’t care too much about your public persona, and they’re not likely to interfere with your day to day decisions and value judgments, although they are fond of tampering with your choices of right and wrong, good and or bad, helpful or not in various situations which are more clearly mental health moments than anything else.

Charming, isn’t it?  Do you have some strategies to frustrate the “creatures of evil” lurking within?  Here are two of mine, the first being my favorite, the second being a pain in the rear!

  • Get up early; stay up late; challenge yourself to a cold weather walk; put on some of your favorite music and crank up the volume!
  • Do you need to “show off” about anything?  Do it, knowing you have a critic housed squarely between your ears ready to kick you in the pants…but just can’t figure you out!

BUSINESS SMARTS & GOD SENSE! …from the sidelines by Dr. John Yacenda

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WHAT IS THE ORIGIN OF YOUR RIGHTS AND PRIVILEGES?

What are the special rights or privileges you have earned, if any, based on your identified profession?  How about based on your financial worth and all you do for others in your community?  Apply this same question with respect to your education, special awards, or membership in any number of community organizations, including your local church.  I could probably go on for quite a long time asking people about what they felt was the origin of their rights and privileges, and at day’s end I expect our minds would be spinning from the diversity of answers.

Prospectively thinking, that’d be a nice kind of dizziness because it would suggest lots of people are engaged with others in their community doing good and being helpful, and we know from observational, clinical, behavioral and longitudinal research that this type of “helpful/giving” behavior promotes your own health and well-being, and increases longevity!

Are you ready for longevity in this world?  Be helpful to others.  Are you ready for eternal life?  Let’s take a peek at the RIGHTS and PRIVILEGES God lined up for us as His children, given the free will to choose – or not — to live under His protection and His grace, even as we are sojourners and pilgrims in a world some would argue theologically is not our home at all — more a place to which we are visitors.

The good news is I’m not here to put an end to that debate, but I will gladly affirm my Christianity, and that I am an Ordained Minister in the Wesleyan Church of North American (yes, the church is named from its founder, John Wesley, who also founded the Methodist Church).

The “Rights and Privileges” you have as a child of God are magnified in their importance by the “code for living” laid out in God’s 10 Commandments, as your faithfulness to these Commandments usher in your freedom to fully embrace and use the rights and privileges Gods affords His children.

Christians are born again by the incorruptible Word of God.  Many of us are born into our Christianity — it came to us along with our parents!  And it’s just as true that many people convert to Christianity, like my Jewish mother did when she married my Catholic father.

As Christians we have a responsibility to proudly accept the duty to uphold God’s Word and His Ways for our lives. There’s no guesswork to it; God lays it out pretty clearly — we need to LISTEN.

Remember Peter, the leader of Jesus’ 12 Apostles, as an evangelist to the Jewish people he needed to admonish them to put aside sinful attitudes and to grow spiritually with an infant-like longing for the Word.  Peter used basic math reasoning to encourage the Jewish converts: REDUCE the bad stuff (i.e., malice, guile or deceitfulness, hypocrisies, envies, and all evil speakings), and INCREASE the good stuff (i.e., the milk of the Word of God, and receiving His graciousness).

As Christians we have been called to follow in the steps of Jesus, who suffered for us, yet committed no sin, neither was guile or deceit found in his mouth; when reviled, Jesus did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten; Jesus committed Himself to God who judges righteously.

As people of God, we Christians today have a duty to keep our conduct honorable in the communities in which we work and serve.  As well, we are challenged to honor and submit to governmental authorities, honor all people, love the brethren, and to have a respectful and “loving fear” of God.

LET ME HEAR FROM YOU…Christian and Atheist alike.   

BUSINESS SMARTS & GOD SENSE! …from the sidelines by Dr. John Yacenda

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IDENTIFYING THE SOURCE of YOUR “LOVE WISDOM”

Here’s an indefatigable truth about Love Wisdom: if you have LOVE in your heart, you are primed to do things that are generally positive; your expressions of love are genuine, and your inclination is to stand firmly in opposition to those things your “love wisdom” instinctively reveals are destructive and deceitful about, to put it bluntly, phony love!

When your “love wisdom” prompts you to maintain justice in your dealings with others, it is tempting to attribute the solid foundation of your love to a ready source of “values clarification” you’ve long relied on, or under which you have matured as a woman or man.  Of course, the minister in me knows this “ready source” as God’s Word as written in the Bible.  Your source could certainly be another source, even a role model in the form of a beloved aunt or uncle who was for you an important, even essential, source of wisdom that helped shape your emotions and interpersonal relationships as you grew up.

        I’m always (yes, always) asked about how God views wisdom in general, because it’s more than just “love wisdom” right?  Of course, the Ordained Minister in me loves this question, because I actually have an answer I’ve used from the pulpit on a number of occasions: Simply, God used the Old Testament (I’m referencing Proverbs 16:17-21) — essentially the pre-Jesus religious history of man, to craft what I teach as God’s ABC Wisdom:

       1. ACCEPT that it is profitable in using the wisdom of the Book of Proverbs, for example, to guide your steps as you walk of love, justice and fairness in your life;

       2. BEGINNING TO END it’s about placing your trust in God by HUMBLY SUBMITTING to His Word;

       3. CONFIRM YOUR WISDOM by always returning to the Old Testament scriptures to verify the wisdom God has given you through His Word!  And as your comfort grows, you can apply this to the Gospel of Jesus Christ in the New Testament!

Do you have to be a Christian to use God’s ABC Wisdom?  It’d be tough to humbly submit to His Word if you were not a Christian.

  Here’s how the ABC’s of the scriptural teachings in this section of Proverbs could be translated into living in today’s world.  Try these on, see how my summaries fit, and let me know what you think!  Write me, and we’ll post your question and my answer so others may learn as well.  If need be, however, we’ll work on your issues privately thereafter.

LIVE WITH THESE WISDOM SUMMARIES:

       — Live upright; you know what God asks of you, do it! Be proud of who you are, but not prideful (see #2) Expect your path to be free of obstacles that would normally defeat you.  Your upright path helps you to avoid moral evils, but doesn’t extinguish them.

       — Recognize destructive pride is blind to reason, self-centered, and ignorant of social responsibility — this kind of pride leads to weakness instead of strength, and you’ll find it difficult to be fair and reasonable.  Step out of yourself; take a holiday from being judgmental (see #3).  You know immediately when you’re headed down that path.  Stop!  Turn around…

      —  Submit to others respectfully by acknowledging their contributions to life; give others a chance to be themselves free of your judgment, and see/feel what they have to offer! In return, I guarantee they’ll receive more of what you have to offer!

BUSINESS SMARTS & GOD SENSE! …from the sidelines by Dr. John Yacenda

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GROW an EVEN MORE SUCCESSFUL BUSINESS…with no watering involved!

I want you to get so excited about what you’re doing to generate an income that you’re absolutely certain you’re good enough that if it required watering you could “Grow an even more successful business…with no watering involved!”  At one time in my research studies with organically-fertilized/grown fruits and vegetables we developed intricate raised growing beds that required minimal watering, yet produced maximum plant growth.  We thought that was an accomplishment, but we learned later the plants needed the water to properly mature in texture, taste and nutritional value.

The great news for your business is that you can still grow it famously well without watering it, but here are three SUCCESS POINTS we’ve learned you can use to help you “Grow an even more successful business…with no watering involved!

     Number 1 — Know what turns you on; know what interests you; and be certain about what drives you crazy!  Notice, I did not say to be certain about what turns you off, because your need to be flexible to sustain your business is non-negotiable.  The SUCCESS POINT 1: you’ve got to have both a forgiving, and perhaps a forgetting disposition when it comes to most customers and competitors.

     Number 2 — Markets, as well as consumers likes and dislikes change like the weather in response to a change from high to low pressure. If your goal is to sustain your business in a wildly fickle consumer market, choose how you want to take a stand, and then do it very well!  In other words, when the buying habits of consumers in your community shift from neighborhood retailers to Big Box store retailers you know the bottom line for consumers has likely shifted to product pricing.  It’s tough to compete price for price with Big Box store prices for neighborhood retailers, and it may be the only thing you have going for you is your history in the community.   The SUCCESS POINT 2: Recognize that every day during “regular” buying cycles you are building rapport and reputation with customers.  Build incentive into these opportunities for loyalty habits to develop (e.g., special product ordering, first name recognition, etc.); public relations history has relative value, and for some will eclipse the monetary savings of the Big Box on all sorts of everyday supplies and goods.  It’s an emotional appeal; yes, and we are still not machines.

     Number 3 — People talk…always, and they say exactly what’s on their minds when it comes to their experiences with service industry businesses.  My wife, Terry Rasner-Yacenda (Author of: She Is All Business, Tate Publishing), says it all the time: “Service, service, service; — if we expect to grow a more successful business we know service is essential!”  Indeed, it leads to SUCCESS POINT 3: train your staff to provide the kind of services people will remember as fair, attentive, reasonably priced, and effective!

 

 

BUSINESS SMARTS & GOD SENSE! …from the sidelines by Dr. John Yacenda

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Ageism ism…what?

Terry doesn’t talk very much about age in her book, She Is All Business (Tate Publishing), and ageism most certainly is not a topic business owners generally like to talk about because it suggests they have biases, even worse, prejudices against aging employees.  It’s tough to admit, but ageism is akin to the worst of isms when older employees are viewed as less worthy, less valuable, a burden to have around, even liabilities ready to break the bank.

The funny thing about ageism for many of us over 55, for example, is that we don’t relate to our age being anywhere near being old.  Who could imagine 55 being old?  Let me tell you a little story before I go on about this very “age stage” as I call it.

I’m at home the other day and the phone rings.  I pick up the receiver, “Good morning, Dr. John here…”  Silence.  “Hello,” I say.  “Oh hi, this is the XYZ survey company, and we’re looking into the radio and music-listening preferences of the public.”

“Great,” I said.

“May I ask your age; are you 55 or over?”

“Yes,” I said proudly, “and I love my music!”

To my surprise, the person asked, “Is there anyone in the household present in the age group 23-48?”

“No, there’s not.”

“Okay, thank you for your time.”

What — like I’m Mr. Music, and if I’m outside watering out in the back yard at night, Terry says the whole neighborhood hears me singing along with the music on my iPod.  If I’m watering in front I’ll have an awesome Country music station playing, and playing loudly!

This Ageism mentality is not healthy anywhere; not socially, not in the family, not in church, not in our biases and prejudices, not in our love life, and most certainly not in the work place!

Watch what you say about AGE; observe what you do about AGE; and be honest about how you feel about AGE and growing older…because all of us are doing just that!